Hello everyone! Just thought I would do a post about something I’ve learned to do recently, and that’s let things go.
My main topic with this is going to be about a girl, but it applies to a lot of other things as well.
I met this girl 5 years ago, and she was amazing to me. I instantly developed a crush on her, and through 5 years of friendship, I always wanted to be with her. However, she did not feel the same. I spent a good amount of this time blaming her for not wanting to be with me because of my looks, I’m an overweight guy.
That’s not the case, and I was wrong to quickly go to that assumption.
Recently, she got into another relationship. I was mad. I blamed her for lying to me and not telling me the full truth, and maybe she didn’t. I decided to take her out of my life. At the time my reasoning was because I was mad at her. Ironically, I learned there were other reasons. The main reason being that I knew if I kept being her friend, it would not only hurt me, but it would hurt her and her new relationship. Neither of us deserved that.
I spoke with her just last night, and we talked things out. I’m her friend again, and I still love her as a friend. I also learned that by not letting go, I was going to let another amazing girl go and would regret it later. I am happy to say as of this writing, things are going the way I think they were meant to go. I got my best friend back, and it’s truly just a friendship, and I got an amazing person in my life that I know will bring me happiness.
Letting go of things in the past, or even the present, will be better for anyone involved in the situation. I understand it will not happen right away, and may take some time. There is no set amount of time. Two days, two months, or two years; that is up to you. Whenever you feel like you can bring that person back in your life and not feel any hurt, or anger towards them. That is the key thing. Don’t feel anger towards them, learn to let that go. It will make you feel better.
Also, take a look at how you were acting. We like to think that we are all innocent in everything, but we are not. We do things, as well, to hurt them just as bad, if not more, than they hurt us. You will feel better in the long run, and you will be happier in the long run.
Let go of anger. Let go of sadness. Let go of bitterness. Just, let it go. The classic line I’ve always used is “if it was meant to be, it will happen…someday.”