Hello everyone! I am going to write about a topic that is kind of personal to me. I’ve experienced this, and I feel like I can offer a good outlook on it.
Do looks matter? That is kind of a generic question, because it really depends on who you are asking.
Growing up, I was not the smallest kid by any means. I’m still not small. I am a big guy, and I mean that in every sense of the phrase. I am overweight. I’ve experienced that most people find this as unattractive, and I’ve come to accept that. I have worked on it, and still am, to get down to a healthier weight, but this post is not about that.
In high school, all my friends were getting into relationships. Everyone seemed to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I did not. I never really did have a girlfriend in high school. I had crushes on people, I even tried a few times, but my weight ultimately became an issue for everyone that I was interested in.
My views on this, because of my experience, is that women only want a guy that is skinny and strong, with abs! (Thank you Taylor Lautner for setting that bar high!) I became bitter because of this, for a very long time. Anytime a girl would complain about not finding a nice guy, but overlooked me, upset me. I think rightfully so.
I recently read an article (which is linked here) that stated if a guy has to say they are a nice guy, then they really aren’t. I disagree. I believe that many guys, of different shapes and sizes, get overlooked because they are indeed a nice guy. I’ve had a girl tell me to my face she likes the bad boys because she hopes she is able to turn them nice. It’s the challenge that excited her. I know not every girl is this way, and I understand that.
But that’s what it seems like, from a guy’s perspective. We believe we are nice, and we seemed to get over looked because we don’t have that “bad boy” image, and there isn’t a challenge. There isn’t anything to “fix” so to speak.
I do believe that there is someone for everyone out there. Some find that person as early as high school. Some wait until their mid 20’s – even 30’s until they find that someone. And some just give up, and they never find anyone because they believe there isn’t someone. I’ve always been told love happens when you aren’t looking for it. Let love find me, because you can’t find love. I feel like that’s a good saying. There is truth in that. I also believe some people, including myself, believe there can’t be complete happiness unless you are able to share life with someone.
I am interested in hearing people’s thoughts on this subject, as I feel that there are many different views and experiences associated with it. If you have a thought on this, or an experience you’d like to share, please comment below, or feel free to hit me up on my Facebook group, A Scott Stearns Blog, and send me a message.
Thank you for reading, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day.